Is it because hes over me?

I just "detached" from my fiance 2 weeks ago for the same reason. I found myself edging him back but then I get angry at myself becasue I need to love myself first but then feel guilty as though I am bailing out on him. They know how to play us. Just stay the course and focus on you and really turn over to God and ask Him to heklp take it all away.......I can't imagine going back to the way we were even though we love each other very much. Last Wednesday I attended a "co-dependent anonymous" group meeting. I thought it was very cheesy but then I am glad I went. All of the women there were middle aged or seniors and had very sad eyes like they had cried too many nights and they were there after 25-30 years of hanging on and they just looked defeated. It made me realize that I do not want to be like that and I deserve to be in a HEALTHY relationship. I wish they could have gotten out sooner.